Book Discussion Questions The Deeply Formed Life

One of my book groups is reading The Deeply Formed Life by Rich Villodas.  Since I am creating questions for our times together I though I would share here for others to use! 

Introduction
How have we been disciplined into superficiality? xiii
What aspects of the external world make us shallowly formed? xv
How was the redwood root analogy good (or not) to parallel the Christian life? xxiii

Chapter 1 & 2 Contemplative Rhythms
What are the problems of modern life according to Villodas? 1-6
What is the anecdote (of the problems of modern life)? 7-19
How does monastic life counter this? (What parallels do you see in Theodyssey?)
Villodas gave silent prayer, Sabbath, the slow reading of scripture and the shared life…
Which one feels like something you want to try? Which one feels the hardest? 20-42
How is silent prayer different from silence? 22-28
Why is Sabbath-keeping so hard? 29-37
What is the hardest part of lectio divina for you? 37-41

Chapters 3 & 4: Racial Reconciliation
How does the gospel help us to define racial reconciliation? 49-52
Is there any new information you learned about systemic injustice? 52-56
How did the Old Testament prophets speak about justice? 59-60
Which misunderstanding is most difficult to overcome? 60-63
How do we practically go about examining our habits and being better listeners?
How have you seen lament or reconciling prayer work or how would you like to see at work?
How did you feel about renouncing whiteness?

Chapters 5 & 6: Interior Examination
P94 gives a definition of interior examination. How is this like other spiritual formation practices? Different?
How is his perspective on the Psalms helpful? P 96
Villodas lists several things to examine on 100-101. What would you add to this list?
What enemies of examination are most difficult for you p 102-106
How have you cultivated interior examination in the past?
What aspects of the examination seem most helpful to you from chapter 6?

Chapters 7 & 8: Sexual Wholeness
How was Villodas’ idea of sexuality more holistic than what we are used to?
How can we seek healthy connections in life?
What practical advice he gave in chapter 8 was most useful to you?
How does touch transform the way you think of social relationships?
How do we cultivate healthy sex lives?

Chapters 9 &10: Missional Mindset
Pg 172 mentions that this mindset is about becoming a particular person before taking a particular action. Do you agree or disagree? How is this a different perspective for you?
How have you seen doing without being play out in your life or other people’s lives? P174
On page 177, Villodas describes the dance between Father, Son and Holy Spirit. How does this description help you understand God's movement in the world through us?
How can we practically look for where God is moving to join in with his dance? P181-185
How does Villodas’ posture fit with your experience of Christians? P 185-188
How can we view hospitality as more than inviting people into our homes?p 190-196
How does the Hebrew word for justiceMi potDescribe How to act in the world for others? Page 196-204
How do we need to change our mindset to become mission people at all times? p 204-210
How does the rule of life mentioned in the afterword mirror the trellis idea of Theodyssey? What are aspects of your rule of life right now?

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We lost a family member in January and I have felt like my attention span is pretty limited lately.  In this season, I have been using the Lectio 365 App a lot as part of my devotion time. 

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In my house, we refer to this as "Spain Salad" because it was created as a simple meal at the end of a travel day. When we travel, we often eat a simple breakfast and then lunch out as we are exploring. When back at an AirBnB at the end of the day, we have simple meals like this salad. Made of chopped avocado, cherry tomatoes, black olives and cheese, it is best in summer and fall when the produce is at its best. 

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Eastside Sites

There a number of fun little spots you could make a morning adventure on the Eastside of Santa Barbara. We have been hearing about the frog wall for a long time and finally went to see it. It is located on Paterna Lane which is located just off Alameda Padre Serra (APS) via either Lasuen Rd or Drover Rd. There is a lookout spot at the junction between Paterna, Lasuen and Drover that is the perfect place to park. 

Frog Wall Parking

Walk less than a black down the path on Paterna Lane to the Frog Wall. Take 5 minutes to enjoy the variety of frog statues there. 

Nearby you can visit nearby Franceshi Park via the Mission Steps while you are there (just short walk down Dover Rd). 

Franceshi Park has many paths and a lovely view of the city with the ocean. The dilapidated old house has an interesting history. It has amazing views of downtown and the ocean. 

If you follow Lasuen Road back to APS, you will find Orpet Park on Lasuen Rd and along APS. It has lovely walking paths, landscaped areas and grassy areas for dog running. My girls remembered being here many years ago and recreated the picture they took back then. 

Between the two sides of Orpet Park, there is a historical site. I have driven by this covering and wondered what it was for. It is the last standing streetcar stop from the network of cars that existed in the late 1800's and early 1900's. 

Just down APS, you can visit the Mission Rose Gardens and Old Mission Reservoir or the Mission itself.  

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Book Discussion Questions: Present Over Perfect

My spiritual formation group is still meeting and reading together. Our most recent read was Present over Perfect by Shauna Niequist.  It is written as essays and is autobiographical. It is available on Hoopla as an ebook and on Audio through my Goleta and Santa Barbara libraries. We split the book into 2 3 section chunks. 

Parts 1-3
- What aspects of Shauna's life change resonated with you? (Or didn’t.)
- Shauna talks about the idea of “Fake resting?” (page 35) Is this something you are prone to? Why or Why not?
- On page 37, Shauna lists some fundamental questions. “Am I loved? Does someone see me? Do I matter? Am I safe?” Which question jumped out for you?
- Page 49 reads “If you're not careful with your yeses, you start to say no to some very important things without realizing it.” How does this cause you to reflect on your own life?
- On page 74, Shauna shares the analogy of pouring out the vinegar before you get to the oil. Is this how you pray instinctively? Or do your prayer habits look different?
- On page 83, Shauna mentions that each church can only be “half the pie.” What gaps have you found in your church experience?
- Page 106 reads, “In seasons of deep transformation, Silence is the greatest guide. Silence will become the incubator for your new spirit, keeping it safe, growing it steadily. Has this been your experience with silence? How so?
- Page 128 reads present over perfect is about rejecting the method every day is a new opportunity to prove our worth and about the truth that our worth is inherent, given by God, not by hustling.
- There are a lot of stories we tell ourselves about what’s required of us. (“I’m a hard worker.”) And a lot of stories our culture tells about what’s required of the moment. (“Carpe diem!”) What story are you telling yourself about what constitutes “the good life” right now? Is that story particularly gendered or Christian? Does it matter? *
- What practical ways are there to reshape the life we live? 

* Thanks to Kate Bowler's question list

Parts 4-6 

Other places to hear from Shauna: Kate Bowler and Emily P. Freeman

Beach Packing List for Teens

See the original beach packing list

The needs for the beach have changed as my kids have grown. We no longer take a wagon and take far less stuff.

Our beach packing list includes:
1. Chairs (At least one in my car at all times)
2. Umbrella (I can stay a lot longer with an umbrella)

3. Hat (See above)
4. Towels Some of us need 2 -- one for sitting and one for drying

5. Sunblock
6. Easy to eat snacks (Crunchy peas, chips, popcorn, etc)
7. Water bottles with closing lids

8. Boogie Boards
7. Sand toys (sometimes)

Tips for sand removal: 

See original post for the little kid tips

We get as much off at the beach and rinse in the backyard when home, showering right after.

We use coconut oil for tar removal 

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Bowlero

Recently we purchased a summer bowling pass from Bowlero. For $40, you can bowl 2 games every day and have free shoe rental (Sunday- Friday open-close and Saturday open-4pm). For $55, you can upgrade to any location, a daily $5 arcade credit and 15% off food/nonalcoholic beverages. The passes are good May 13th - September 1st. 

Otherwise: 

Cost: Online Reservations will put the cost at about $125 for a lane for 2 hours including shoe rental. It is far cheaper to walk in and get the lane, but you are not guaranteed a quick spot.  

Location: Goleta near Yogurtland on Calle Real

Directions: From downtown, take the 101N to the Fairview exit and take right onto Fairview. Take another right onto Calle Real. Bowlero is about 1/2 block down on the right. 

Parking: Free on site

Hours: M-W 2pm-11pm Th/F 2pm-12am, Saturday 10am-12am, Sunday 10am-11pm
Time: 1-2 hours

Drive Time: 10 minutes 

More Information: https://www.bowlero.com/location/bowlero-santa-barbara

Nearby:  Goleta Library, Fairview Gardens 

Quote from my 11 year old: "It's great to bring friends." 

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